Today is a very special day for our family. Exactly two years ago today, we found out that Kasi wanted us to adopt her baby boy. On April 19th, 2014, I wrote “Yesterday might have been the day that changed our lives,” in my journal. And it was! Sometimes it’s still hard for me to believe that Kasi picked us to be the parents of this precious boy. To say that he has made us happy is an understatement. Telling you that I LOVE being his mother with all my heart doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel.
Here’s a condensed version of how we came to be in contact with our sweet Dimitri’s birth mom.
On April 18th, 2014, I was home with our three foster kids, trying to make dinner. Adam was in class. The kids were a little wound up because we’d had a long day, so I was trying to get food on the table as quickly as I could. My phone had been on silent all day; I looked at it and saw that I had a few texts. I read the first text and it said, “Hi Mandie! This is Stephanie Hansen. I was wondering if I could call you in a couple minutes? I know it’s weird and I hope you remember me. I have something to ask you and it’s very important.” Stephanie and I knew each other when we lived in Provo. She and her husband Jordan had two adorable girls that I watched a few times. Although I really liked Stephanie and thought a lot of her, we hadn’t talked since they moved to Idaho, so I was kind of curious as to what important thing she could be calling about. I thought I’d try and get the kids eating dinner before I called her back, so I text and said, “Of course I remember you. I should be free to talk in about 15 minutes.” A while later, Stephanie called. She asked if she could put me on speaker phone, which kind of confused me, but I told her that was okay. Stephanie then said, “I’m sitting here with my mother-in-law and with my 17 year old sister-in-law. She’s pregnant. I’ve told her all about you guys, and she’s looked at your blog and everything, and, well, we were wondering if you wanted a baby.”
I felt like my heart stopped. The next thing I remember, I was crying and Stephanie was asking if I was still there because I hadn’t said anything for so long. I don’t know how long it was before I was able to answer. But I told her, yes I was still on the phone, and yes, I would LOVE a baby (I don’t think those were my exact words, but you get the idea). Anyway, we chatted on the phone for a few more minutes and I told Stephanie that I would get in touch with or caseworker and see what we needed to do next.
The next weekend, Adam and I drove up to Pocatello to meet Kasi. I was so nervous for the entire drive, but I remember when we met Kasi, I had such a good, peaceful feeling. Like I already knew her. I knew she was our baby’s mom. I don’t know how else to explain it, but I know that other adoptive parents will know what I mean. Loretta (Kasi’s mom) gave us a copy of one of Kasi’s ultrasounds, and I remember when she handed them to Adam and me, she said, “Look, here’s your baby,” and I was just so overwhelmed and amazed that the baby growing inside of Kasi was going to be ours.
I love Kasi so much. I will never be able to understand the courage and selflessness it took to choose to place her baby with us. I hope that we are living up to her expectations of the kind of parents she wanted for her baby.